Every time I see him, he seems to have changed.
His large, round eyes look a little bluer.
His wispy strawberry-blonde hair, a little thicker.
And depending on who you are talking to, he looks remarkably like “their side” of the family.
Honestly, at four months of age it’s hard to tell who our newest grandson is eventually going to grow to look like. The one thing we all agree upon is that he is adorable.
It’s funny how we search to see ourselves in the faces of our children and grandchildren. Even though my older grandson came into our family through the blessing of adoption I love it when people tell me he looks like me. While he’s not biologically related to me, we are forever bonded together at the deepest level of our hearts.
It amazes me how perfectly God has crafted our family to be.
You see, years ago when I began thinking about having a family I envisioned little blonde and blue-eyed replicas of myself happily frolicking at my feet. Of course, knowing what I know now about children that was a very unrealistic dream.
The children I know did very little frolicking at their mother’s feet. Generally, the only time my children happened to be around my feet was while I was on the phone trying to have an adult conversation. That was the moment they chose to run circles around me yelling, “But it’s mine” while holding a toy over their head just out of reach of their sibling.
Chaotic childhood skirmishes aside, falling in love with a tall, dark and handsome man was what significantly reduced the physical odds of fulfilling that fair-haired fantasy. His very dominate gene pool produced three beautiful brown-eyed children and of course, I wouldn’t have changed a hair on those silky brown-haired heads.
Because really, no matter what they looked like on the outside, I knew they were made in the very image of God. And because of that, their inner countenance became much more important than their outer appearance.
That truth applies to me, too. Whether or not I have my earthly father’s eye color or my mother’s brilliant smile is of far less importance than whether I possess my Heavenly Father’s heart. If others are to know “Who” is at the root of my family tree, my life must bear good fruit.
Fruit proclaiming mercy in the place of judgment.
Commitment instead of compromise.
Peace over fear.
D.L. Moody said, “Out of 100 men, one will read the Bible, the other 99 will read the Christian.”
My greatest joy would be that when others “read me” they can say that they saw the story of a child of God.
An imperfect and flawed child, no doubt.
But still, a child who was striving to grow, day by day, to look a little bit more like her Father.